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4.14.2005
 Every so often a well meaning friend or associate will interpret my appreciation for some girl as an excuse to prod me into asking her out. I have trouble explaining that even though I might say things like "most beautiful girl I've ever seen" or "holy shit, she's hot!" it doesn't necessarily mean I think that me and this girl would make a good match. I'll be the first to admit that I need to be a little more proactive about my love life. Trust me when I say that I beat myself up often enough when I know that I've let a legitimate opportunity slip me by. Sometimes I'm just being stupid and not looking for the signs when they come around. Other times I might be in the midst of self denial about ever finding the right girl. So yeah, some criticism is warranted and some prodding is understandable. But really, I know what I like and I have a pretty good idea of what kinds of girls like me. Every so often I run across a girl that I not only find attractive, but I also feel that I might get along with. It doesn't happen as often as I might like, which contributes to my extended lengths of singlehood, but when it does, I surprise myself by finding the will to go after what I want. It usually doesn't work out, but at least I know that I'm not just running around hitting on any just girl I think is hot. Last week I wrote a post about the difference between attractive people and unattractive people and how we perceive the actions and words of the two groups differently. I also wanted to take a minute to say that this perception affects the way in which we see the dating world. You either see the dating scene as a great way to meet new people, go out to fancy restaruants, movies etc. and an ego booster, or you see it as a source of constant frustration and an ego killer. After a while you just want to stop beating your forehead against the brick wall and lay back for a while. You learn to pick and choose your battles. If you're going to fail, you decide that it should be in a battle you actually want to win. Otherwise you find yourself starring in a romantic comedy turned stalker flick. Not good. |
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