"I see this sort of thing happen so often and it's not only about religion, which I realize is very important to some people. A young woman finally finds a guy who is exactly the kind of guy she's been hoping for except for one or two details. There's always something that must be changed. Look sweetie, you can't order up a man like you would an ice cream sundae with all the toppings you like and none that you don't. You have to take them as they come. Even if you do manage to change him there's only a small chance that the change will last. More likely he will end up resenting you for trying to force him into the mold you created. "